"Many books have been written by breast cancer patients, describing their journey. But few have been written by the partners “in the trenches.” This book combines insights, traumas, and humor from a husband and wife team—caretaker and patient—who confront the devastating disease from two different emotional perspectives, yet learn to work together and better understand each other through their wrenching journey to health. A must read for patients, their caretakers, and all who love them!"

Dottie Lamm, Former First Lady of Colorado and 25-year Breast Cancer Survivor


In this candid memoir, Judy and Dan share their story of dealing with breast cancer—finding their own authentic way to survive the ordeal of coping with a life-threatening illness. The Heroics of Falling Apart: One Couple’s Breast Cancer Journey examines the broad range of experiences from the surprisingly different viewpoints of patient and caregiver, and does so with a candidness and humor that others facing a similar journey will find touching and inspiring, as well as informative.

A cancer diagnosis launches an overwhelming process—decisions to be made, questions to ponder, and emotions and people with which to cope. Often, simply knowing that there is no right or wrong way to get through it makes the journey bearable, a fact made strikingly clear through the Gordon’s deeply personal and detailed account of their journey.

Sometimes we need to see other people do something that’s scary first, and then we can take that first step into the unknown ourselves.

Book Excerpts


The Heroics of Falling Apart is listed in the 2009 Colorado Breast Cancer Resources Directory.

The Heroics of Falling Apart was a finalist in the National Best Books 2008 Awards (category Health: Cancer).

Judy led a series of workshops entitled "Your Right Way: Exploring Your Authentic Path to Coping with a Life-Altering Illness." Sponsored by The Rafael Spiritual Healing Center in Denver, the series was designed for those touched by cancer and their caregivers and loved ones.  Participants were guided in using writing as an entryway to cope with illness and caregiving and to explore healing possibilities.

Dan's essay, "Why Me?," appears in an anthology of essays titled Voices of Caregiving, published in October 2008 by The Healing Project.

The Heroics of Falling Apart won First Place in the Autobiography/Memoir category of the Colorado Independent Publishers Association 2008 EVVY Award Program, and earned the most points of all 107 books entered in the 17-category competition. See Judges' Comments.


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